The first step is to try to find out what is causing your stresses. Once you know the reasons behind your anxieties, it is easier to develop ways to manage your anxieties and stresses.

An employee has many options he can use to manage his anxieties.

The most important thing to remember is to manage your fears and anxieties one step at a time. Some people make the mistake of trying to get rid of all of their fears at the same time. When they do this, they are unsuccessful and the fears and anxieties continue bothering the person.

Learn to plan ahead. Some people wait to the last minute to do things. This can be a mistake. Before going to work in the mornings, set up a list of things you want to accomplish that specific day. When you achieve these daily goals at the end of the workday, you will feel more productive and be less stressed.

If your corporate job is the source of your anxieties, then maybe you should try to find another job or find another company. People change jobs all the time nowadays. There is nothing wrong in finding another company or job that will be less stressful for you.

Learn to take advantage of the help that is available. There are many stress workshops for employees who are stressed and anxious. Go to a few sessions to get additional ideas on managing the stress of your corporate job.

Stress and anxiety can lead to many health problems so it is important to be able to know how to reduce your current anxieties. Do not let your job take you to an early grave.

The woman sitting next to me was gripping the armrests and shaking, scared to death. I turned to her and asked her if she would like some help. She nodded.

“Don’t worry, nothing bad is going to happen. We are safe.”

“How do you know that?” she asked.

“If you were to move out of what your mind is telling you that is scaring you and open to a different Source of Truth, you would know too. Your mind, which is devoted to trying to control things, is freaking out due to feeling so out of control. It’s this feeling of being out of control that is scaring you. And, of course, you have no control over the plane or over the pilot. But if you tune into the real Source of Truth, which is definitely not your mind, you will know that we are safe. Imagine that your mind is like your personal computer, which only contains what has been programmed into it. Imagine that the Source of Truth is like the Internet – a vast network of information that you can easily access. Imagine the Source of Truth as a beautiful light filled with all the wisdom of the universe. Open to learning with this Source of Truth and ask, ‘Are we safe?’ Try it and see what happens. Just focus your whole being on wanting to know the truth.”

The women was terrified enough to try it, even though I think she thought I was crazy. She closed her eyes and focused on the question, “Are we safe?” A moment later she opened her eyes, clearly surprised.

“I heard in my mind, ‘You are safe.’ Did I just make that up?”

“How do you feel if you decide to believe it?”

“Much better! I’m not feeling so scared!”

“That’s because our emotions are an accurate guide of whether or not we are telling ourselves the truth. Our emotions are a great gift from our Source. We will always feel badly when we are telling ourselves a lie, and we will feel happy and peaceful when we are operating from Truth. You were terrified because you were telling yourself a lie, and now you are fine because you are telling yourself the truth. Whether you believe this is coming from within you or from without is not important. What is important is to know that you can access the Truth. I always ask this question BEFORE I fly, so that I know the whole time that I am safe, bumps and all.”

The woman had a big smile on her face the rest of the way down, even though we were still bouncing around.

Fear, whether of flying or of anything else, is always the result of what you are telling yourself. Your fear is letting you know that you are off base in your thinking. If you then cover up your fear with an addiction, such as drinking on the plane in order to get past the fear, then you never deal with the lie you are telling yourself that is causing the fear.

The wounded part of us always feels afraid when we think we are out of control of something. This part of us, our mind, thinks it can know the truth about things. But our minds are programmed with many false beliefs that cause much fear. Truth is not something we can access from our limited mind – it is something we have to open to. The thoughts of our mind will never make us feel safe and will certainly not give us the control we seek. True safety lies in opening to Spirit and being guided by Truth. The paradox is that in releasing control to Spirit, we gain the sense of control that comes from operating out of the Truth.

The mind thinks it can create safety with some form of control. Yet true safety comes from being connected with the Source of Truth.

The intelligence that created and guides this Universe is speaking to us.  There is an abundance of wisdom calling for our attention.

What does “fuel” represent?  It is what we need to move.  It powers our cars, homes and airplanes.  It is an essential ingredient to our lives at this moment.  It is “energy”.  Just as the world requires energy – so do we.  We are complex energy systems that require fuel to exist.  However, it is not gas/oil that we require- it is energy of a different type.  Our existence is animated by an unseen and powerful energy.  We do not know exactly what it is- but we know it exist.

Are we not experiencing a similar “energy crisis” within our own lives?  There is so much going on around us in the outer “world” that our own personal and spiritual energy has become precious and scarce.  Our attention is constantly being drawn “outward” and we expend vast amounts of energy just to get through the day.  Our own energy has become compromised by stress, worry, anxiety and fear.  The cost of continuing along this path is exorbitant.  It is costing us our health, well-being and happiness. We are caught up in our own “power struggles” and regardless of how it is manifesting in our individual circumstances – it is a struggle for our own energy.  We feel empty and depleted so we desperately try to control the world around us, hoping this will fill our emptiness.  We allow fear to drive us around in circles- wasting more and more energy.  The ways in which we do this are endless and the “world” will constantly remind you of the “lie” that you are powerless.

We are constantly bombarded with images of fear, lack and inadequacy.  Turn on the television and you will hear such uplifting messages such as; you are too old and/or too fat and your teeth are not white enough.  You will probably have a heart attack or get cancer or some other dreadful disease. You are probably depressed and both you and your house need a makeover.  If you are having financial problems, you can pay only $39.99 to purchase a “system” that will make you a millionaire in a few short months.  If your husband and/or boyfriend does not buy you a 5-carat diamond ring, then he does not love you.  The “Christian” stations are selling redemption and salvation; by becoming a prayer partner for $57.00 a month you are assured of God’s blessings.  Oh yeah, just in case you don’t have enough to worry about- the devil is out to get you.   Take a moment and understand that companies pay big money for airtime and their only objective is to sell you something.  If you enjoy watching television, then by all means watch it- but do not base who you are or how you feel about yourself by what you see and hear.

We are constantly picking on others and ourselves.  Our attention is drawn outward and focused on what is “wrong”.  No wonder there is an energy shortage.  What is happening in the world is a manifestation of what is happening in our spirits.  The wisdom of the Universe is trying to tell you something.

You are not powerless, alone or empty.  There is always an unlimited supply of energy available to you at any time.  Fighting with your spouse, friends, family, co-workers or business partner will not “fill you up”.  Telling someone what is wrong with him or her or his or her behavior will not bring you peace.  Beating up on yourself or dwelling on past “mistakes” will not recharge your energy. Your attempt to control situations out of anger and a quest for “control” will only create further conflict.

Call upon the awesome and incredible power and love of God (by whichever terminology you choose).  The wisdom that created you, did not forget about you.  Perhaps you have separated yourself?  There is an abundance of “fuel” available, all you have to do is recognize this truth and ask. It is really that simple.  The energy crisis in the world is only a mirror of the crisis within us.  Recharge your energy by calling on the endless supply that is available to fill your life with peace, love and blessings.  If there are situations in your life that you wish to change or create, then do so with a peaceful heart and spirit.  By handling situations from a place of love, you do not deplete the energy of others or yourself.

Dear God (Universe, Goddess, Father/Mother God, All that is)

Fill me with love, peace and wisdom.
Pour your light into my life so my eyes will be opened to the truth.
Help me to see my own power, beauty and uniqueness.
Fuel my spirit to stay connected to the unlimited supply of creative energy that is always pouring forth.
Give me the knowing, that by partnering with the Divine- I am strong and powerful.
Fill my mind with your thoughts.
Help me to release guilt, anger, worry and fear.
As my heart opens- so do my spiritual eyes and I release all judgments about others and myself.
As my connection to the Divine grows- I am an observer of the world around me.
I have the power to choose how to use my energy for the highest good of all concerned.
I am no longer afraid of the false projections shown to me.
Amen (so it is)

Paula Picard, Psychic and Spiritual Teacher
www.paulapicard.com
314.308.2053

We all have the capacity for happiness and success in every area of our lives including our personal development, our relationships, and our professional lives, but happiness and success do not just happen. We must actively seek them out and set in motion plans and actions that will make them not only possible but probable.

That is why you need a life plan, but actually creating one takes time and thought — something so many of us have little to spare. However don’t begrudge the time you could spend on a life plan because in the end that time is a very good investment that will help you save time and stress once you have your life plan fully developed. And isn’t anything that can help you achieve happiness and success a worthwhile investment of your time and energy?

Where You Are Now

Before you can begin crafting your life plan you must evaluate your current status. Reflect on the realities of your life including your commitments, finances, and dreams. What about your life makes you happy and what makes you unhappy?

Where are you now in terms of work, recreation, relationships, finances, and anything else you consider important. For example, I consider it important that my life contributes to the greater good and I have friends who consider the long-term impact of their life is an important measure.

Rate each of these areas with a letter grade with “A” of course being the highest score for the best possible life. Then calculate your overall life grade. Obviously if you have a 4.0 then your life is on track, but anything less means there are some areas you will need to work on.

It is important to identify the areas of your life that you consider successful or at least on track to success as well as the areas that you would like to improve.

Let Your Dreams Out

A big part of creating your life plan is letting yourself dream of what your ideal life would include in all the key areas you identified above (career, relationships, etc.).

Don’t worry about realities or impossibilities. Just give your heart and mind free reign to picture everything you wish your life could be in terms of relationships and family; profession and career; finances and retirement; and how you’d like to spend your time (travel, hobbies, etc.).

If money and other considerations were not a factor what would you do with your time and your life? What gets you really excited? What have you always wanted? What do you love to do (professionally or personally).

Step Back Into Reality

Note the abilities, experience and strengths you already possess that can help you live your ideal life.

Make a list of the accomplishments you are most proud of in your professional and personal life. Can any of these help you achieve your idea life?

Evaluate your work style and habits. Do you work better alone, in a group, or as a manager? What time of day is your peak performance? How many hours a day or week are you capable of working at a high level of performance?

Now Make Your Plan

Once you have created a vision of your dream life and evaluated your strengths and weaknesses then you are better able to create a plan that will help you achieve your ideal life.

Perhaps your dream is to own your business but currently you don’t have any experience with management So find a way to gain that experience through your professional work or in a volunteer capacity.

Now that you know where you want your life to go and you know how far along that path you have progressed then it is simply a matter of working toward your goal to achieve that life of happiness and success you desire.

We get angry when we are stopped doing something. Or when we don’t get our way. We get angry when our desires are not fulfilled, or when people don’t agree to our viewpoint. Many times we get angry when we find our views at great variance with others and are not able to understand the other viewpoint and disagree with that.

List your friends. Think about a situation and imagine the reactions. For example, let us say that the situation is this – your friend is sitting in a restaurant and someone spills something hot on his/her hands unintentionally. Now imagine the reactions from your list. You will write reactions that will vary greatly. You will imagine a friend of yours laughing it off and another friend calling the manager and making a big scene. The reactions are different because they are controlling their anger differently. How?

Some of us never take things very seriously. So they don’t get angry over small things at all. That is the nature of these people. Can we use any techniques to control anger? Let us examine. Do you react immediately, or think about what went wrong before reacting? Those of us who react spontaneously, get angry fast. Those who think about it before reacting are able to understand and control their emotions better. Why not count up to ten before reacting?

Understanding others viewpoint helps in many situations. As we have our viewpoint, so do others. Why try to enforce our thoughts on them? Why not at least try and understand what they think and why? If your boss is angry with you, you need not react immediately. Give some time and think about all the possible reasons and you may find the answer to his anger. If at the end you realize that his/her anger was totally unjustified, you chose to forgive and not react angrily.

Emotions such as anger can be controlled. It needs reflection. It needs practice to exercise restraint. By winning over your anger you will become a better person. Make your anger your slave and not get enslaved by it.

The joke recognizes that fact that incessant talking is a common addiction.

Non-stop talking is about using others for attention and approval because of not giving oneself enough attention and approval. The talker is not actually offering anything to the listener. Instead, the talker, in going on and on with a monologue, is pulling energy from the listener. People who end up listening to a talker go on and on are often caretakers who are afraid to hurt the talker by disengaging or by telling the truth about their boredom.

Talkers are often needy people who attempt to assuage their emptiness by trapping people into listening to them. For example, I’ve seen people telling a bank teller their life story, while the trapped teller doesn’t know how to disengage without being impolite. The problem is that one of the reasons these people are without friends is that no one wants to be with them. It’s draining to be at the other end of a needy person who uses talking as a way to fill up.

If you are addicted to talking, perhaps you believe that you are being interesting when you go on and on about yourself. However, you might reconsider the truth of this belief if you find that many people avoid you. Most people will not tell you the truth – that they feel tired, drained and trapped in your presence, and bored by your talking. Not wanting to offend you, they just stay away rather speak their truth. They don’t answer the phone when they know it’s you, and they find any excuse to not spend time with you. It’s not that they don’t like you – it’s that they don’t want to be used by you to fill up your emptiness.

HEALING YOUR ADDICTION TO TALKING

Imagine that you have a child within you – your feeling self – who feels very alone. This child feels alone because you are not paying attention to him or her. Every time you trap someone into listening to you, it is as if you are handing this inner child away for adoption. You want someone else to attend to and approve of this child instead of you accepting this responsibility.

The very fact of doing this is an inner abandonment and is creating the aloneness that is at the heart of all addictions. By expecting others to listen to you when you don’t listen to yourself, you are giving the child within a message that he or she is not important to you. When you do not take the time to attend to your own feelings and needs, you are creating inner neediness and emptiness. This inner emptiness is like a vacuum that attempts to suck caring from others. Yet no matter how often others do listen to you, it never really fills you. This is because only you can give your own inner child what he or she needs.

If you were to take some time each day to have a dialogue, either out loud or in writing, with the part of you who so needs to be heard, you would discover that you can fill your own emptiness. In addition, if you practice imagining a loving spiritual presence holding you, loving you, listening to you and guiding you, you will no longer feel alone.

As long as you believe that it is someone else’s job to fill you, you will not take the time to learn how to fill yourself. As long as you believe that it is okay to trap others and use them to fill yourself, you will continue your talking addiction. Only when you get that it is not loving to yourself or others to expect them to take care of your own inner child – your own feelings and needs – will you start to take on that responsibility.

While you might not believe that you can fill yourself better than others can, you will not know until you try. My personal experience is that when my intention is to take loving care of myself and to fill myself with the Love that is God, I feel happy and peaceful. When you choose to take responsibility for meeting your own needs instead of abandoning yourself to others, you will never feel alone.

Demonstrating to an employer how your skills directly resulted in accomplishments for the company in both the skill sets section and the work history section is the defining characteristic of the combination resume, as opposed to the functional resume, which keeps the skills and work history separate.

The combination format also allows professionals to apply for a broader range of jobs than does the strict chronological format. The combination resume has been a successful choice for consultants, as a strong work history is backed by individual success at specific companies or while overseeing key projects. It is also a good choice if you have both strong skills and a steady employment record but need a resume that will overcome the objections some employers may have to the functional format. The emphasis of this resume, remember, is on the specific skills you can bring to a future employer.

ADVANTAGES OF THE COMBINATION RESUME
1) Combines the defining strengths of chronological and functional resumes; a steady work history and diverse skill sets.

2) Allows a broader ranger of professional objectives than does the strict chronological resume.

3) Is great for consultants because it specifies how they influenced a business’s success.

DISADVANTAGES OF THE COMBINATION RESUME

1) If you are applying for positions in multiple industries, skill sections and accomplishment bullets may have to be reorganized and tweaked accordingly.

2) Conservative employers may desire the chronological resume, especially for executives.

The benefits of having a bolstered self confidence and self esteem are boundless, but lacking it can imprison you in a lacklustre life. People would just be stepping on you and you will be completely ignored, languishing in a cellar of despair. You may never realize the full extent of your potential.

Building your Self Confidence and Self Esteem

The true key to gaining self confidence and self esteem is to truly love and believe yourself. For some people this could be very hard, especially if they grew up in an environment with out a shred of unconditional love and support. This kind of people doesn’t know how it is to give love. You cannot give what you do not have.

Another key is determining which areas you are adept in. Focusing and developing the areas you are in strong in will let you fully believe in your skills. The more you see an aspect in your life that you are good in, you can finally appreciate yourself and be proud.

As you build your self confidence and self esteem, a great way to develop it is to test and challenge yourself slowly and gradually. The more challenges you conquer the better you will feel about yourself.

No need to wait, you can start building your self confidence and esteem right now, a whole world waits for those who believes and loves themselves.